Understanding The Language of “NO” Don’t Be A Boob.

I was kind of sad to read the other day that a new study suggests that most parents tell lies to their children as a tactic to change their behavior. It also cites that the most frequent example was parents threatening to leave children alone in public unless they behaved. You know, pretending to a child that they were going to walk away and leave the child to his or her tantrum.  They say another common lie is the "false promise to buy a requested toy at some indefinite time in the future".

Wow, I was having a conversation a while back with some mom about the task of training our children and how hard is can be. However, and you know this lying to them is for your comfort not to train them, in addition if you are of a Christian persuasion, the good book says parents who don't discipline their kids hate them, yikes! But here is why I think that is and the mom's I was talking to said it sounded right.

First, you will never learn a language any easier than you will as a child

Second "No" is a language we all will face for our entire life.  There will most likely always be someone in authority over us and sometimes no is just how it is.  When a person is not educated in the language of no it can leave a person feeling rejected and hurt, now and forever.

Now is the time to teach them when confronted by a NO to ask the questions..

Does this person have authority over me? Conversation ends.

Are there compromises that can be struck? Conversation continues.

and then add to that, it is not rejection, or lack of love.  Sometimes it just is, and a good attitude will lend you favor in the future.

Just saying.