Rules of Engagement + Love in General
I was reading and article the other day on secrets to a stronger marriage. I know the horse has rode but I got a new one in the barn. Funny thing is, what I really think is that these principles should work for any long-term relationship. The following are what the most seasoned couples say are some unspoken rules vital for getting past rough patches and growing stronger as a couple.
- Don’t criticize your spouse’s parents or friends. You know how it is — your family can tick you off but no one else had dare speak ill of them. That’s why you should tread carefully with your in-laws and your husband’s dearest friends.
- Tell your spouse about any ex encounters. Whether you get a Facebook friend request or run into an old flame at your kid’s soccer game, keeping the news to yourself could backfire, despite having zero feelings for the ex.
- Keep unsolicited advice to yourself. Offer your support, lend your ear, but avoid speaking in an “I know what’s best” tone.
- Don’t bring up past arguments. Or at least put a statute of limitations on them.
- Don’t post private thoughts or photos publicly. You may not want to be tagged in a politically charged rant he starts or he may not want you to share photos of the kids.
- Log off. When your attention is focused elsewhere, your spouse is bound to feel unimportant.
Words to the wise. I’d say good luck but it’s really more of a choice so make good ones:)