JStew & Cori here.... We want to know: What's your stance on friendships with the opposite sex? Is it possible to be "just friends"? Does it present a challenge? Does it cause problems in your romantic relationships?

JStew: I can't speak for everybody, but I guess I've always felt it's on a case by case basis. And it always depends on your relationship. You've got to have your boundaries, but also be respectful of your partner's boundaries. I have not only a lot of friends of the opposite sex, but I'm still friends with many exes as well. And my wife is also friends with these lovely ladies. To be fair, I don't go do lots of things with these various women without my wife, but if there was an occasion to do so, I probably would. But that's up to us. The same way it might be different for you. It's all about trust. You've either earned it, or you haven't. And worse, have you lost it?

Cori: I would say yes, but I agree with JStew, it really depends on the type of person you are, and the type of relationships both your partner, and your friend's partners have. For the most part, most of my friends have typically been men. It was only late into adulthood that I actually developed friendships with women, and only then because they were mom-friends. Don't get me wrong, these friendships have turned out to be some of the best friendships I've ever had. But before that, most of my friends were male, even most of my close working partnerships. With established boundaries and respect for their partners, or my partners at the time, these have worked. But there has to be that understanding that its not meant to become a romantic relationship. Boundaries and respect are the key to having friends of the opposite sex, in my opinion.

Naturally, you all had some very vocal opinions on the subject. So see where you fit into the conversation.....

Dennis Bean FRIENDS ARE FRIENDS!!! Reguardless....i totally dont get the whole opposite sex thing...it is what it is..if someone doesnt trust the fact..." Theres a problem." Just my 2 cents.
Margaret Siemerling If you're married or in a serious romantic relationship I vote icksnay. If you're both completely single? Then to each their own. Find your tribe!
Cheryl McManus I have several really close friends of the opposite sex. Never thought of them any other way.
Christopher Wilcox ......Cori and I have been friends for 2 decades and never contemplated being anything other than "just friends". Like any relationship, it's a matter of being honest with yourself and the other person.
Greg Miller It's absolutely possible without complications.
Sandra Lyn ABSOLUTELY I think it is! Or that it SHOULD be. Nobody should have to defend themselves against an innocent girl/guy friendship...PERIOD! It's a horrible way to make another person feel. Just sayin'.
Nancy Neu I think so.
Sunshine Yes, definitely, but I think it depends on the person and their partner's level of trust.
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